I try and try,
The distance in between:
The love I feel,
The things i fear,
I dearly say good dream.
I can finally see it.
Now I have to believe:
All those precious stories.
All the world is made of faith,
And pixie dust.
So I’ll try…
Thank you, again, Jonatha Brooke for those inspiring words! So yea… that was the theme today… I’ll try. I promised my girlfriends I wouldn’t throw in the towel, so I logged back in to Match today with an open mind and heart. After all, I had 5 lady bugs visit me last night–the oddest thing, they were all clustered together on one of my kitchen cabinets. If you’ve ever seen Under the Tuscan Sun, you will understand the significance of the lady bugs. Lo and behold, I had some emails and winks waiting (ugh… the winking I can do without… I prefer straight up emails… take the time to write me a short note, damnit!)
And so, the process starts all over again. I had two nice gentleman out of the bunch stand out from the ‘crowd’. Let’s call them Match 11 and 12. Match 11 seems like a nice, down to earth guy. Divorced for a few years (good sign he’s at least able to make a committment), so hopefully the rebound relationship is long behind him. He doesn’t seem to have the ‘edge’ that I usually find attractive, but you know… I think I’ve decided to be happy with kind and honest. Time will tell if he is either of those things… hope *does* spring eternal. Match 12 has an incredible writing style (that translates to SEXY for me…) I’m not so hung up on looks, but hell, if you can spell and string words together with punctuation… and… you can make me smile/laugh… I’m there. He’s got a profile pic of him playing a guitar (at least I hope that was him) which sealed the deal for me. I winked back… and shortly after got a nice introductory email. I promptly emailed back and we shall see…
Okay, as promised, we’re going to go back in time to meet Matches 1-9. Let’s start with Match 1 as Match 11 asked me to share my worst eDating experience to date. I started off with a bang… Match 1 was my worst date thus far. So what follows in a excerpt from my email:
Hmm… let’s see… my worst Match date? That would probably be my first online date ever (not a good way to get start). He seemed like a really nice guy… great conversationalist on the phone and in email… funny… seemed interested in what I was saying, etc. But there were some major flaws with the date… firstly, he arrived 30 minutes late (I was heading out when I saw him walking in). He ‘stretched’ the truth about his height (I didn’t care about his height, just that he wasn’t honest about it). He was very obvious about giving me the ‘once over’ when we entered the restaurant… lol I swear; I think he looked disappointed! All that was minor stuff though, compared to the dinner itself.
We went to a lovely Italian restaurant and he ordered a hamburger (that should’ve been my first clue). The conversation was entirely about him… golf, money, golf, work, money, golf and more golf. LOL I don’t play golf (unless it involves a windmill). And while he might’ve initially looked disappointed about my appearance, he spent half the dinner staring at my chest (yes.. no joke) and the other half looking around the restaurant. Not once did he look me in the eye. As if that wasn’t bad enough, while I was eating my gnocchi, we were talking about favorite foods and he told me he loved pizza but didn’t eat it. Dummy over here asks…’why not?’ He explained, in excrutiating detail, how pizza didn’t agree with his digestive track… ugh… I could barely finish my dinner. I’m not sure what happened to him between the phone calls/emails and the date. It was like two different people.
Thankfully there was a very nice couple sitting next to us that was very friendly and got me through the dinner 🙂
And finally… we left the restaurant and he didn’t ask where I was parked or offer to walk me (the parking was across a busy road and a bit far). All that being said he grabbed me while I was saying thank you and tried to plant a big kiss on my lips… I ended up turning my head so he only got the corner of my mouth and my cheek. Now mind you, I’m okay with kissing on the first date… as long as I feel there’s some chemistry there and we’ve already spoken about another date. It just seemed out of left field when he barely engaged with me all evening. So really not a horrific date (I’ve heard some doozies from others), but not great either 🙂
Thankfully… I kept trying after that date…